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Marriage arrangement

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Often appears with: marriage and betrothal · rank, class, and social order · justice as a virtue · simo and chremes · seduction consequences · rudeger’s generosity · roman social status · roman public offices · rescued reputation · political legitimacy and consent · phormio and phædria · philumena

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“Look now, if you wish any thing to succeed, intrust it to him who may bring you from smooth water on to a rock.” Terence, The Comedies of Terence · observation

The Autobiography of Benvenuto Cellini primary

Benvenuto Cellini · composed 1558–1566 (recording events down to 1562)
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Benvenuto describes his close artistic circle in Giovanni Gaddi’s household, then Raffaello asks Giovanni to arrange a marriage dowry, but Giovanni jokes it off, delaying the marriage and souring relations.

his early manhood. Messer Bastiano of Venice, a most excellent painter, and I were admitted to their society; and almost every day we met together in Messer Giovanni’s company. [6] Being aware of this intimacy, the worthy goldsmith Raffaello said to Messer Giovanni: “Good sir, you know me; now I want to marry my daughter to Benvenuto, and can think of no better intermediary than your worship. So I am come to crave y…

The Nibelungenlied secondary

Anonymous (Volks-epic tradition); special introduction by William H. Carpenter · circa 1200
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At Rudeger’s court the Burgundians receive formal welcome from ladies, dine and celebrate, and arrange Giselher’s marriage to Rudeger’s daughter, followed by lavish feasting for two weeks.

XII Well pleased were the Burgundians; when all was brought to pass, The lords rode on together; the yeomen on the grass Laid them down in clusters; there to repose they fell; I ween, in all their journey they ne'er had far'd so well. XIII And now from forth the castle the noble margravine Had gone with her fair daughter; beside them there was seen Many a lovely lady, and many a smiling maid, …

Letters of Pliny primary

Pliny the Younger (Gaius Plinius Caecilius Secundus) · c. 97–c. 112 CE (letters collected/arranged for publication by Pliny)
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Pliny praises Minutius Aemilianus, proposed as a husband for his correspondent’s niece, giving his family background, character, public offices, education, modesty, and wealth as relevant to marriage.

the deference due to age; and, in a word, he is no less desirous to model himself by my instructions than I was by those of yourself and your brother. He is a native of Brixia, one of those provinces in Italy which still retain much of the old modesty, frugal simplicity, and even rusticity, of manner. He is the son of Minutius Macrinus, whose humble desires were satisfied with standing at the head of the equestrian …

The Letters of the Younger Pliny, First Series — Volume 1 primary

Pliny the Younger (Publius Caecilius Secundus) · c. 96–113 CE (composition of the letters collected as First Series, Volume 1)
Book of his correspondence, and which show us Pliny acting as Governor of the province of Pontus and Bithynia. He had been sent there because the finances of many of the cities had been allowed to fall into a shocking state, and because the Emperor wanted a man whom he could thoroughly trust to put them straight. No doubt Pliny, while flattered at this proof of Trajan's regard, felt the severance from his friends and ordinary pursuits which this term of absence necessitated. But compare his attitude with that of Cicero as Governor of Cilicia! Cicero crawled on the outward journey, and when he reached his destination he counted the days to his return like a bullied school-boy counts the days to the end of the term. He writes to his friends in the capital, begging and praying of them that they will prevent his being obliged to stay for a second year. All his thoughts are of Rome and how to return there. The wretched provincials bore him to distraction; he yearns for the wider arena of the capital in which to play the swelling part to which he aspires. There is, in short, not a trace in Cicero's letters from his province to show that he took the slightest interest in his new surroundings. Pliny displays a far different spirit. He reminds us more of the Colonial Governor of our own day. He is interested in the past history and traditions of the country, he is anxious that the cities shall have good water supplies, good baths, good theatres, good gymnasia. He is for ever suggesting to the Emperor that he should send architects to consult with him on some important public work. And these letters disclose to us what a wonderful system of organised government the Roman Empire possessed. Pliny even writes to Trajan to ask permission that an evil-smelling sewer may be covered over in a town called Amastria. If all the governors of the provinces wrote home for orders on such points, the Emperor must indeed have been busy, and some of his replies to Pliny show that Trajan hinted very plainly that a governor ought to have some initiative of his own. None the less, the tenour of this correspondence proves that Trajan held the threads of government very jealously in his own hands. When Pliny suggested the establishment of a small fire-brigade in Nicomedia, where the citizens had stood enjoying the aesthetic beauty of a disastrous fire which destroyed whole streets, instead of putting it out, Trajan sharply vetoed the suggestion, on the ground that the Greeks were factious people and would turn even a fire-brigade to illicit and seditious purposes. > BOOK I. (15/23)

Pliny agrees to help arrange a marriage by selecting a husband for Arulenus Rusticus’s granddaughter and recommends Minucius Acilianus, praising his family, offices, and suitability.

1.XIV.--TO JUNIUS MAURICUS. You ask me to look out for a husband for your brother's daughter, and you do well to select me for such a commission. For you know how I looked up to him, and what an affection I had for his splendid qualities; you know, too, what good advice he gave me in my salad days, and how by his warm praises he actually made it appear that I deserved them. You could not have given me a more impor…

The Comedies of Terence secondary

Terence · c. 166–160 BCE
ACT THE FIRST. > SCENE I.

Charinus tells Byrrhìa that Pamphilus’s marriage to Philumena is planned for today, and he fears losing her; Byrrhìa urges him to channel effort toward what can still be achieved.

*Enter CHARINUS and BYRRHIA.[49]* CHAR. How say you, Byrrhia? Is she to be given in marriage to Pamphilus to-day? BYR. It is so. CHAR. How do you know? BYR. I heard {it} just now from Davus at the Forum. CHAR. Woe unto wretched me! As, hitherto, until now, my mind has been racked amid hope and fear; so, since hope has been withdrawn, wearied with care, it sinks overwhelmed. BYR. By my troth, Charinus, since tha…

The Comedies of Terence secondary

Terence · c. 166–160 BCE
ACT THE FIRST. > SCENE V.

Simo persuades Chremes to proceed with a marriage between his son and Chremes’ daughter despite a quarrel between the couple, arguing that a respectable match can cure love-sickness and restore social stability.

*Enter CHREMES.* SIM. I greet you, Chremes. CHREM. O, you are the very person I was looking for. SIM. And I for you. CHREM. You meet me at a welcome moment. Some persons have been to me, to say that they had heard from you, that my daughter was to be married to your son to-day; I’ve come to see whether they are out of their senses or you. SIM. Listen; in a few words you shall learn both what I want of you, and w…

The Comedies of Terence secondary

Terence · c. 166–160 BCE
ACT THE FIRST. > SCENE VI. (2/2)

Micio lectures Æschinus for having seduced a virgin without foresight, then announces he will provide the girl as Æschinus’s wife and sends him home to prepare the marriage.

me deserving of your love, as long as you live, my {dear} father, as I am sincerely sorry for the offense I have committed, and am ashamed to see you. MIC. Upon my word I believe it, for I know your ingenuous disposition: but I am afraid that you are too inconsiderate. In what city, pray, do you suppose you live? You have debauched a virgin, whom it was not lawful for you to touch. In the first place then that was a…

The Comedies of Terence secondary

Terence · c. 166–160 BCE
ACT THE FIRST. > SCENE IV.

Antipho questions Geta about his scheme with Phormio’s part in buying a woman’s portion, fears prison and disgrace, and Geta counters that delays and omens won’t prevent repayment or the marriage plan.

*ANTIPHO and GETA.* ANT. (*coming forward.*) Geta. GETA. Well. ANT. What have you been doing? GETA. Diddling the old fellows out of their money. ANT. Is that quite the thing? GETA. I’ faith, I don’t know: it’s just what I was told {to do}. ANT. How now, whip-scoundrel, do you give me an answer to what I don’t ask you? (*Kicks him.*) GETA. What was it then that you did ask? ANT. What was it I did ask? Through…