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Sexual secrecy

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Often appears with: marriage and betrothal · justice as a virtue · warning about love · the passions and the emotions · the city and urban life · sexuality and desire · resistance and honor · pregnancy and childbirth · nurse's counsel · midnight secret meetings · marital absence · impersonation

Usually: temptation (2) · skepticism (2) · narrative (1) · reflection (1) · speech or oration (1) · betrayal (1) · the fall of the great (1) · the test or trial (1) · exhortation (1) · irony (1)

Quotable
“Whatever happens one must always be anxious about it. *Streams of blood* says Hella.” Sigmund Freud, A Young Girl's Diary · vivid

A Young Girl's Diary secondary

Sigmund Freud · 1915 (diary years transcribed/published with a 1915 letter; internal diary spans ages 11–14)
(16/169)

Grete learns about pregnancy/childbirth from Hella and others, reacts with fear and curiosity, and discusses classmates’ coded talk while her secrecy and anxiety around lessons intensify.

she can’t speak. Whenever I see her do this, I make a point of speaking to her so that she has to answer. She does get in such a wax. October 9th. I know all about it now. . . That’s how babies come. And *that* is what Robert really meant. Not for me, thank you, I simply won’t marry. For if one marries one has to do it; it hurts frightfully and yet one has to. What a good thing that I know it in time. But I wish I k…

The Decameron, Volume I primary

Giovanni Boccaccio · c. 1349–1353 (composition of The Decameron)
(147/218)

Zima’s impersonation of the silent wife tricks the knight and secures ongoing adultery with the wife, while the wife later arranges the midnight meeting during Messer Francesco’s six-month absence.

well to it that thou be not seen), and thou shalt find me waiting for thee, and we will have our fill of mutual cheer and solace all night long." Having thus answered for the lady, Zima resumed his own person and thus replied to the lady:--"Dearest madam, your boon response so overpowers my every faculty that scarce can I frame words to render you due thanks; and, were I able to utter all I feel, time, however long,…

La Fiammetta primary

Giovanni Boccaccio · between 1343 and 1355
Chapter I (10/19)

The nurse insists she knows the narrator’s love already, promises to keep it secret, and warns her to resist Love’s “yoke,” arguing that resisting early prevents later ruin and dishonor.

although it is made plainly evident by deeds. There is no reason why you should hide from me a fact whereof I have had perfect knowledge since several days ago." Alas! when I heard her speak thus, provoked and stung by her words, I said: "If, then, thou wittest of all this, wherefore dost thou question me? All that thou hast to do now is to keep secret that which thou hast discovered." "In good truth," she replied…